Is There an App That Scores Relationship Health From Your Text Messages?
Reviewed by Jacob Reed, founder of Verity ·
Short answer
Yes. Couples chat analyzers such as LoveGraft and FlagMyChat read an exported WhatsApp chat and give a relationship or compatibility score with red and green flags, for a few dollars. Verity gives a 0–100 health score too, built for a different job: seeing the warning patterns in a conversation and documenting them with dates. Whichever you use, a score is a summary of word patterns, not a verdict on your relationship, and it is worth checking where your chat is sent.
A number is tempting when you are not sure whether what you are living with is normal. It can help, as long as you know what went into it.
Which apps score a relationship from texts?
1.Couples chat analyzers
LoveGraft reads an exported WhatsApp chat on its website or through a WhatsApp bot and gives a relationship health score, red flags, personality profiles and who-texts-first statistics. Its site says basic statistics are free, the full analysis costs €4.99 once, chat files are deleted within 2 days and reports after 90 days. FlagMyChat gives toxicity and compatibility scores and red and green flags for a chat between partners. Its site says the zip is opened in your browser, and only the message text it needs is sent to an AI and then discarded; the full analysis is $3.99. Phone apps such as Relationship AI and UNSAID do similar things. These are mostly for reflection, or fun.
2.Tools for a conflict you may need to document
Verity scores the same kind of conversation but is built for someone who may need to show it to a lawyer: it names the warning patterns it found, keeps every flagged message with its date, and can number every message in date order. It reads the export in your browser, so the conversation is not uploaded. See also apps that check texts for manipulation.
What goes into a relationship health score?
Most scores count patterns in the words: warmth, apologies and support on one side; contempt, criticism, threats and stonewalling on the other. Some add timing, such as who starts conversations and how long replies take. Verity's score starts at 100. Each warning pattern it finds takes points off, more for serious patterns such as threats and for patterns that keep repeating. Positive patterns, such as accountability, empathy and shared humor, add a little back, capped so they can never cancel out serious ones. A conversation with too few patterns to judge gets no score at all rather than a reassuring one.
What a score cannot tell you
- What anyone meant. Sarcasm and private jokes read as insults; cruelty said politely can read as fine.
- What happens off the phone. Calls, visits and silences are not in the chat.
- Whether to stay or go. A counselor, a trusted friend or a domestic violence advocate can help with that; a number cannot.
If the score worries you, read the flagged messages themselves. Our guides to emotional abuse in texts and gaslighting explain what each pattern looks like.
Where does your chat go?
A relationship chat is about as private as it gets, and it is about two people. Before you upload one, read where it is processed and how long it is kept. If your partner may check your phone, use a private window; an app icon on your home screen can be seen. Verity reads the chat in your browser, with nothing to install, and has a quick-exit button.
Where does Verity fit?
The free preview shows the health score, the patterns found and one flagged message in full, and lets you read every message on screen. It reads WhatsApp, iPhone, Android, Messenger, Instagram and other exports, or screenshots. If you later need it for a lawyer, paid options are one-time: every message numbered in date order ($19), or a report quoting the flagged messages with their dates ($99 Standard, $149 Detailed).
This is general information, not counseling or legal advice. We make Verity, so weigh what we say about it accordingly. Other tools' features and prices are as their own sites described them on October 22, 2026, and can change. If you are in danger, call 911; the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233.
See a health score on a sample conversation
Try the sample, or check your own export free. It is read in your browser and is not uploaded.